Dating one person at a time
I mean I wasn't exclusive and exploring my options. I can see the logic of someone dating several people at least in the very initial stages but I just don't operate that way.However, it started to feel like a job and when you feel connections with more than one, it can make you feel like you are on The Bachelor. I don't care if it is a few emails, the initial phone call, or it ends after the first meet. Although I will admit, when multiple women who are intelligent, down to earth, and sexy send you emails wanting to get to know you better, it is hard to turn them down.. I can see the logic of having several meets lined up as without having met anyone of them, there is no commitment owed but for me, it doesn't sit right.I agree that it is difficult to juggle more then one person, I will only date one person at a time.I have a level of respect for a man that will only date one woman at a time.........it isn't right even after a few dates then be upfront and move on,nobody is left hanging and mature adults should be ok with that.I usually like to date at least a few months before telling a woman I want her to be my girlfriend. (Yeah, I know, I'm exaggerating, but it's sadly sort of true.) How do I do it? Because I go on WAY too many one-n-dones, I don't think of myself as "dating" someone from just one date. I don't set up a calendar and book into next month, but I no longer think in terms of "Well, maybe this will go somewhere." I just roll with it now. After ICU and physical rehab from the fall, I'll no longer have to worry about this silliness. SO by default because I have such a hard time finding anyone I actually like I date one at a time :) I started out dating multiple people at first, then I would "sort" few of them out, and keep the potential few.It gives her the chance to explore her options and it allows me to get to know her. (And I don't do meet/greets, so mine are dates.) I used to put tons of time/effort/energy/interest into ONE person via the net and all it got me was loads of wasted time/effort/energy/interest. And I'll get tired of this in the very near future, hide my profile and be completely dateless again. However, it really depends on the situation; I could date 10 people at once, and none of them have potential.
I just haven't found that one woman who matches my inclination. DATING implies we met and are now seeing each other exclusively. A guy does not have a right to ask you to cut ties to all other men until you have been seeing him for awhile and you are ready for it.From my experience too many are too skittish nowadays to not.I'm sure most would agree that even if dating & no matter how well we believe things are going, here today gone tomorrow is common.That is why I haven't had that many girlfriends in my life. But it takes a lot for a woman to make it to the girlfriend stage for me.The biggest problem with dating more than one person at a time is the chance of getting the dates' names mixed up. First of all, I don't have to, there are so many options available.Remember that we are the largest free online dating service, so you will never have to pay a dime to meet your soulmate.Is it old fashioned in this day and age to only date one person at a time when you are not exclusive with somebody?If there was a kiss, it was likely you were going on another date. Though I would still go on meet and greet, one can't have too many friends!:)I prefer to keep my options open when it comes to chatting, meeting & such.Once many have played the field they often begin looking for a steady or committed relationship and date one person at a time. The moment one woman starts to consume more of my thinking, and it feels good, and easy going, like the flow of water, then I cut whoever other people may be in the picture. By having at first open options neither one is tight up to it to force to work. If you feel that you met someone that is worth dropping the other people, that is a feeling, follow it, let it take you wherever it needs to take you.Do not put up a wall, and allow yourself to become vulnerable and fall in love. But doing because you felt it in your heart, not because it was the only choice. To me, dating is a tool for weeding out those who would not be compatible for a Long Term relationship.